Too often, as married couples, we becomeso busy and pre-occupied with “important” matters that we forget life’s simplest pleasure in the relationship, and the depth of intimacy has slipped away. Two weeks ago I saw friends holding hands and it reminded me of something I wrote a few years ago:

 

I still remember,

It was our 3rd or 4th date,

The anticipation,

I could hardly wait!

 

Would it be accepted?

Oh, I carefully planned,

Carefully I moved toward

The touch of her hand.

 

In looking back,

It might not seem like much

But there was magic

In our very first touch!

 

Then through time

We moved on from this

As we inched on

To a hug and a kiss.

 

Recent events

Could have brought the fear

That the intimacy was lost,

We enjoyed through the years.

In her hospital bed,

Barely alive,

I placed my hand in hers,

And I knew she’d survive!

 

I whispered, “I love you,”

Then as gently as you please,

Without looking up

She gave mine a squeeze!

 

No longer “puppy love”,

From the deeps of the soul,

That something returned,

My love is made whole!

 

Even today,

When her pains are severe,

Just holding her hand

Helps despair disappear.

 

Whether in church or shopping

Or taking a stroll,

You’ll witness this couple

In total control.

 

Don’t ever let this beautiful

act slip away from you.

It’s not just for the young,

It requires no words,

It’s more than a symbol of connection;

It conveys a profound message.

It satisfies the basic need for physical touch,

a need we never outgrow.

 

Your hands might be calloused

Or soft to the touch;

It says “I love you, I care,”

It won’t matter much.

 

I will hold Rosemary’s hand through our life together until that day when every wedding vow is fulfilled; then I will release it from my grasp and place her hand, trustingly, into the hand of her Lord God.

 

Scripture:

“But even so, You love me! You are holding my right hand! You will keep on guiding me all my life with Your wisdom and counsel; and afterwards receive me into the glories of heaven!”

Psalms 73:23-24 TLB

 

Final Thought:

“The deepest moments of intimacy occur when you're not talking.”

Patricia Love

 

Additional thought:

“Holding hands is a promise to one another that for just that moment the two of you don’t have to face the future alone.”

 

— Vince Reidsma is a Holland resident. Contact him at vreidsma@gmail.com.